A three-year brain tumor survivor

Susan remains strong and stable prior to her next tests to update the status of her brain tumor and kidney stone.
 
June 26th marks three years since we discovered Susan’s brain tumor, an anniversary laden with paradox.  As a glioblastoma multiforme patient, she has surpassed a life expectancy that averages only about a year from diagnosis.  That’s a fact too obvious, since we’ve known four friends and one Massachusetts senator who have succumbed to high-grade brain tumors since our journey began.  Susan has beaten the odds. Yet with just 10% of GBM patients surviving more than five years, we wonder what the future holds.
 
Why is Susan is a three-year survivor?  Is it that at age 46 when diagnosed, she was younger than average and better able to rally her strength?  Is it that she had access to surgeries, medications, and treatments when she needed them along with world-class care at UCLA? Is it that her type of tumor has a mix of cells that responded better to treatment than others?  Is it that she’s got an unquenchable positive attitude?  I'm encouraged by these comments in a NY Daily News article: 

While new findings continue to extend the lives of patients with glioblastoma, for the moment, it remains one of the most dreaded diagnoses. For those who receive it, putting up a fight against the tumor may help.

“If you go to the Internet and do a search on outcomes in glioma, everyone will call it a terminal illness,” Dr. Henry Friedman, co-director of Duke’s brain tumor center, told the Times. “Your outcome is ‘dead on diagnosis.’ If you don’t have the philosophy that you can win, you have lost before you started.”

NY Daily News 09/01/09: Glioblastoma

While there may be a number of reasons Susan is doing well, ultimately we see God's hand at work.  He's keeping us.  It's just a mystery.  We come to the end of three years with no conclusion – except that Susan has survived this long.  Even the term “survivor” can be troubling.  Was Ted Kennedy a brain cancer survivor for 14 months until he died a month later?
 
Paradox enfolds our spiritual perspective as well.  We are burdened, but not broken down.  Fear attends, but God’s perfect love forces it to the margins.  In turmoil, we've received peace.  Our weakness has been overcome by God’s strength; our vulnerability covered by his faithfulness.  Yet while God is able to heal Susan from GBM, he has not.  Suppose he does?  A Susan healed from GBM will eventually die from something else. 
 
Through this paradox, a force drives us.  Susan is driven to be gracious, enduring, and hopeful as she strives to live. I am driven to care for and encourage her, to declare her a survivor, and to try to make some sense of our situation for our sake and for others.  Three years ago, we were driven to acceptance almost immediately and found the load lighter.  We were driven to behold the darkness and void, and realize it has not been given any power over us. 
 
We are compelled to complete this season of testing, whatever the outcome of Susan’s disease; to see it not as an affliction but as an experience with God. As for me, I knew I was in for a time of testing.  This was a test of faith I must pass.  Do or die.
 
Honestly, I have failed wildly.  But even wilder has been learning my failure was for my benefit, not God’s. My weakness is no surprise to him - but I needed to see it myself.  In terms of spiritual currency, I’m broke.  I’m so broke, sometimes I can’t even pay attention.  But now, in my brokenness, comes the greater part of the test – testing God. The paradox deepens.  

Who is this God who flips a season of testing so he's the one on trial?   Who is this God who decides in advance to bear with his fragile children so we can come to terms with our weakness, which itself is the key to knowing his strength?   Who is he, secure enough in the outcome that he's willing to allow a messy process to play out?  When everything's gone wonky, we're laid low.  Now God can get our attention, help us know he's near, and communicate deeply to our souls about his true nature.

• It’s exactly when your courage is sapped and you feel alone that you can know the God of Deuteronomy 31:8, “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."
• Seeing you’re awash in peril yields the real power of John 16:33: “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
• It’s natural to tremble in the face of death.  In that darkness, an ancient enemy looms and would overtake me.  But when I notice God is there and he’s relaxed enough to “prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies” (Psalm 23:5), then I am at ease too.  God himself becomes my confidence.

To be serene while facing death almost makes no sense.  To be joyful in hope with brain cancer is a bit of a contradiction.  To be confident in one unseen who’s waiting at the end of a journey marked by pain, loss, and uncertainty is actually understandable when you know who's really there. At three years, we’re growing more comfortable with the mystery.